Background: One of the most important challenges that all societies face is the reality of divorce, which is constantly increasing. On the other hand, based on previous studies, borderline personality traits, interpersonal forgiveness, and listening styles are among the most important and deepest causes of divorce in women. There is a gap in research regarding the comparison of the mentioned variables in divorce applicant and non-applicant woman.
Aims: The present study was conducted with the aim of comparing borderline personality traits, interpersonal forgiveness and listening styles in applicant woman and non-applicant divorce.
Methods: The design of the current research was causal-comparative (Ex-Post Facto). The statistical population of this research included all divorce applicant women in the Shahid Bahonar parquet and Kamran clinic in Tehran's 5th district, the Nedaye Aramesh Ravan and Avaye Baran clinic in Tehran's 2nd district, and the woman of divorce non-applicant in neighborhood house, Tehran's 2nd and 5th districts.. The data collection tools were interpersonal forgiveness questionnaires (Ehteshamzadeh et al., 2011), borderline personality (Leichsenring, 1999) and listening styles (Doell, 1997). Data analysis in this research was done by Multivariate Analysis of Varianceand using SPSS-24 software.
Results: The findings of this research showed that between borderline personality traits in general and its components, identity diffusion with (P= 0.001 and F_(1,258)= 12.032; Defense mechanisms with (P= 0.001 and F_(1,258)= 17.907) and fear of intimacy with (P= 0.001 and F_(1,258)= 14.390) there is a significant difference in the two groups of applicant woman and non-applicant divorce. Interpersonal forgiveness in general and its components, reconnection and controlling revenge with (P= 0.001 and F_(1,258)= 11.574); Resentment control with (P= 0.001 and F_(1,258)= 83.662 and realistic understanding with (P= 0.001 and F_(1,258)= 8.035; there is a significant difference in the two groups of applicant woman and non-applicant divorce. Also, in the field of listening styles, Reflective style with
(P= 0.001 and F_(1,258)= 44.604) there is a significant difference in the two groups of applicant applicant woman and non-applicant divorce.
Conclusion: According to the obtained results, which showed that divorce applicant woman and non-applicant divorce woman are different in terms of borderline personality traits, interpersonal forgiveness, and listening styles, It is recommended to pay attention to the borderline personality traits of the parties in pre-marital counseling and to train interpersonal forgiveness and reflective listening style in couple therapy.